Why Your Comfort Zone is Bullshit (and how to get out of it).
Get out of your own way! Get the fuck out of your comfort zone! Stop flatlining! Get a grip for God sake!
How many times have you heard that? Maybe some of you have never heard that and have no clue what I’m talking about.
Get out of your own way.
What way? What does she mean?
I’ll explain. In a minute. For those of you who know what I’m talking about, you just got called out. You know you are in your way. You know that you are the only one standing in the way of the shit you want to do or need to get done.
Step away from your bullshit comfort zone………….NOW!
So what does it mean to get out of your way or the better question here would be, what does it mean to stand in your way? Stand in your way of doing things you really want to do. And why the fuck do we do that anyway? Before we go on and on about how to get out of your way we need to understand why we are standing there in the first place and why we desperately cling on to our comfort zone.
No really, you’re fine here, all cozy in your comfort zone.
So this is something I’m sure many of you have heard a million times. Of course you have. You tell yourself this all the time. “No no no, I don’t need to _____ (insert desire here) because my life is just fine now so why upset the apple cart”? You talk yourself out of doing cool shit because you are “fine just the way you are”. So why bother? What’s the point?
Our comfort zone is a happy, cozy and safe place to be so why would we want to step out of it anyway? Let’s just stay here. Doing anything else requires too much effort and skill and I’m not so sure I have either right now, so, we’re good. Let’s just stay like this. It’s cozy and safe.
The comfort zone.
So when I think of the comfort zone I imagine myself all curled up in a little ball with my Tweety Bird fleecy jammies on (yes I honestly do own jammies like that), eating lightly salted chips, because the regular kind are way worse for you ~eyeroll~, watching Vikings or UFC or any kind of show that involves hot sweaty and bloody, ripped men (don’t judge) with my cell phone neatly attached to my wrist so I can check FB feed every 20 seconds and text whoever is on demand at the time.
It’s super cozy and comfy here and I fucking love it here. BUT, I don’t stay here long. I’m not a comfort zone surfing kinda girl. I used to be though. Oh trust me, I sure was.
So your comfort zone is your place you are cozy in. It’s nice, it’s familiar, it’s safe. It also gets boring as hell. You know it does, otherwise you wouldn’t even be reading this right now.
The comfort zone is a place where dreams stay in cloud bubbles above your head. They never get nurtured, no attention, no love. Nudda, zippo, zilch. They get nothing.
Oh those dirty lies.
And in walks fear. Fear is that ugly little bastard that fills our head with dirty little lies. Yup, he sure does.
- You’re not good enough
- You don’t know how
- Oh you will NEVER do that
- Stop talking like that, what makes you so special?
- You’re a chicken shit and that will never happen in your life
- I can’t I can’t I can’t I can’t I can’t I can’t I can’t I can’t I can’t (this is one of fear’s favourites)
Any of these sound familiar? I’m sure they do. I used to tell myself all of these and then some, for many many years. Most of my life actually. I have a secret for you. Actually it’s not really a secret any more. A lot of us know this but still, for some reason, ignore it.
All those stories and thoughts fear plugs in your head, they are all lies. Yup. They sure are. Who knew right? I have another secret for you. YOU are in control of your mind. But you knew that already didn’t you?
Bring that cloud bubble to life and get out of your way.
So now that we know what a comfort zone really is, what fear really is, and why we are still standing in our own way, it’s now time to pop that bubble, have a look to see what’s really inside and flick fear away. Want to know how easy all that is? Super silly easy. So easy in fact you’ll wonder why you never did it sooner. Here are 8 simple steps!
- Bring cloud bubble and put it on the table
- Open it up to see what’s inside.
- Take one thing to start and have a look at it to see how challenging, or easy, it really is
- Tell yourself “I can do this. I don’t know how BUT I’m going to research and find out what I have to do to bring it to reality
- Get on the internet, go to your library, do whatever it takes, whatever you have to do, talk to people you know may have done this already, do what it takes to get information about it.
- Remind yourself often, many many times, in fact, that you are about to do something awesome and you are SUPER stoked and excited about it.
- Make it happen.
- Stay out of your way. Make it happen. Remind yourself you can do anything. Keep going.
That was pretty easy wasn’t it? You just got out of your own way. Now go do epic shit and have fun.
Tell the story again about how you’d like to go skydiving?
Peace and Love
Iva
