Why This One Piece of Advice is the Worst Ever

And why you should never pay attention to it

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Photo by mark glancy from Pexels (when in doubt choose a cute puppy pic 🐾)

If you’ve read any of my stuff (surely you have) you know that I’m a wee bit of a pitbull. When I want something, I persist, to no end, no matter what. I’m a balls to the walls kinda girl. I push til I can’t push anymore. I blaze trails.

And none of that is because I’m brave and courageous. Nope. It’s because I’m a persistent little motherfucker.

There’s a quote that goes something like this:

If the door doesn’t open, it’s not your door. (who fucking wrote this anyway?? ugh!!)

This quote will make people stop and think ‘right, it’s not my door, I’ll carry on my merry way now’.

I want to stop them and shake them. Grab them by the shoulders and yell at them “kick the fucking door down!! Find out what’s on the other side. Don’t be such a wimp ass for God sake!!”

People are too quick to take no for an answer and then just keep walking aimlessly looking for the next door in hopes that that one opens.

I have a newsflash for you.

All doors open!!

They have knobs and hinges. They swing open and closed. Behind each and every door is something for everyone. Either it’s a gift or a lesson. One of them is yours for the taking…

If you just kick down the goddamn door and find out.

Lemme share a story with you

I’m a blogger over here on my site >> Amazing Me Movement. I’ve worked feverishly to grow my traffic and maintain a well laid out site. I kinda like it and I’m really proud of myself.

Once I reached a certain level of traffic I was able to apply for a higher paying ad agency other than Google Adsense. Once approved, my ad earnings sky rocketed. Yay me!

And then I reached another high traffic level and was able to apply for an even higher paying ad agency, Mediavine. Yay me again!!

In the opinion of most bloggers who have high traffic, Mediavine is the cream of the crop. So I did what any blogger would do. I applied.

And they declined me. Huh. Ok. They give no reason why.

So I waited a month and applied again. And they declined again. So you guessed it, another month goes by, I apply again, and ya, they declined again.

what.the.actual.fuck.?

So I spend endless hours on my blog, edited the living the shit out of if, increased my traffic, you name it, I’ve done it, just to get in with Mediavine. And still nothing…

So the pitbull in me knows no boundaries. I applied to Mediavine 6 fucking times (I’m not even joking).

Door closed-bang on it

Door closed-bang on it

repeat repeat repeat

Until finally…..one day…….I get the email….

Dear Iva: Thank you so much for applying to Mediavine. After looking at your traffic bla bla bla…… you are accepted.

Well son of a bitch!!!!

It was the happiest day of the month. I had been having a tough month with mom passing away and me having to fly back up to Sudbury to be with family.

Ya, it was tough and shitty but this news brought sunshine to my life. I even did the Snoopy happy dance 😁

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(stolen from Google….shhhhh)

Fast forward to now

All that exciting stuff happened last year. I have to update real quick and let you know that things with Mediavine didn’t quite pan out for me the way I was expecting or hoping.

Expectation leads to disappointment. Expect nothing, appreciate everything.

Last year while my traffic was growing I also applied to AdThrive. You have to have 100K monthly views (which I did) but they are really hard to get into. Of course they declined me.

And of course….yup you guessed it. I waited a few months and applied again. Another “no, we’re sorry”.

I actually put them on the back burner for a short time while I worked on other things but reapplied in January of this year and they finally accepted me. I’m not sure how they will perform on my site yet. Time will tell but I’m hoping it won’t be another disaster and disappointment like Mediavine.

This may be another lesson or a gift. I’ll soon find out.

This time I have little to no expectations. If it doesn’t pan out, Ezoic already assured me they will be happy to have me back.

Learning lessons and kicking down doors

In this blogging world testing and trial and error is of the utmost importance. You don’t know what works and what doesn’t unless you test. And kick down doors.

Life in general is all trial and error. We weren’t born with ‘life manuals’. We’re all just winging it.

Did I ever tell you my story about how I even became a freelance writer in the first place?

Long story short…

I was guest posting for free for months until I finally asked the owner of the site if he had a job for me. He said no for months. I asked quite a few times until he finally said yes.

I kept pushing and pushing and kicking and kicking.

every.fucking.door.opens.

(side note-don’t kick down your ex boyfriend’s/girlfriend’s door please….that will most likely not end well and orange will be your new colour…)

Do not ever stop banging on doors just because they stay closed. They open. Trust me. The door will open and there will be a surprise behind it just for you.

If the surprise is a lesson it’s because you need to learn something. Accept it as a gift.

If the surprise is a gift then reward yourself for a job well done and for not giving up on your dream. You’re a badass mofo!! 🤟

Kick down those doors. Don’t take “NO” for an answer all the time. Keep pushing and persisting. Do what you have to do to get a ‘YES’. Believe in yourself and your dream or goal.

You have got to step out of your comfort zone. You have got to pull up your big girl/boy panties and face your challenges head on. You have got to know, deep in your heart, without a shadow of a doubt, that whatever your dream or goal is, you can achieve it, no matter what!!!

Be a pitbull. 🐾🐾 ~woof woof~

I love you ❤

Peace and Love

xo iva xo

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Self help Guru|Expat|Website: https://amazingmemovement.com/ mini self help eBook series here: https://books.amazingmemovement.com/

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