When Most of Your Friends Are Drug Addicts, Coke Heads and Alcoholics

And you wouldn’t have it any other way

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Well that paints a pretty picture doesn’t? You’re probably wondering why I hang out with the likes of ‘these’ people. That would be a valid reaction. Why are ‘these’ people my friends?

When I gave up my life in Canada, I said goodbye to all my ‘normal-ish’ friends. I didn’t know what to expect in Guatemala. Would I make friends easily? Will there be people like me? Will I find a new bestie?

I had a million questions. To be honest, I was kinda scared. What if no one gets me and I don’t make any friends at all? Or what if all the people I meet are nutjobs and I won’t like any of them?

It’s hard to make new friends. It’s hard to trust people too.

But before I continue I should probably clarify a few things:

  • I’m not an alcoholic, never was and hardly drink
  • I’m not a drug addict though about 35 yrs or so ago I was
  • I’m not a coke head though I did spend a year doing it every weekend (those days are behind me now), and
  • I’m not perfect

So what did I find?

Well first of all, I didn’t find anyone like me. And that’s totally ok. I’m pretty sure the world can only handle one iva anyway 😁 What I did find was a melting pot of people from all around the world, who, kinda like me, were seeking freedom and an easy stress free life.

I found alcoholics, pill poppers, coke heads and drug addicts. A few of ‘these’ people are my very best friends.

I found that I can trust these people with my life and that no matter what happens, they will be right there beside me to help.

I found that I could totally be myself, not have to hide behind some facade, and they loved me anyway.

I found that these are some of the most helpful people I’ve ever known in my life.

I found that people are people, no matter how broken we are or what our stories are.

I found a unique camaraderie that I’ve never had before.

You become who you hang with the most

There’s a quote that goes something like this:

You are the average of 5 people you hang around with most.

I disagree with this statement so much it’s not even funny. I wrote about my argument with this here:

I’m not the average of the 5 people I hang around with the most. Not even fucking close. I am totally cut from a different cloth and I will never be the average of anybody or anything.

I live a completely different life than my friends. 99% of them are retired or on disability and have come down here to live an easy affordable life. I still work 6 days a week! My work is my life. Their retirement is their life.

I have goals and dreams and visions. They just want to chill out, get drunk, smoke weed, snort coke, whatever. You do your thing, dude. Such opposites but we all have a common theme.

Freedom.

And that’s what we all found down here. The friendship part is a bonus.

I join my friends once a week for tequila shots, weed smoking and fun. This is my escape from the real world of work, work and more work. These people take my mind off of the daily stress and frustration that sometimes comes from blogging and trying to master SEO and WordPress.

With ‘these’ people I can let loose and be iva. Not the online self help guru iva, but the one who needs to decompress and chill the fuck out. Without judgement.

Thesepeople are my friends and I wouldn’t have it any other way. ❤

I love you ❤

Peace and Love

xo iva xo

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