Life lessons

What If You’re Choosing Your Own Misery Without Realizing It?

What if? What if this life you’re living is the one you are settling for? What if?

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This has been on my mind a lot lately, and I talk an awful lot about changing your life and healing from your past and bla bla bla. But people still get mad when I say this:

What you’re not changing, you’re choosing.

That’s a tough pill for most to swallow. I get a lot of flak/flack (the jury is still out on which one is the proper spelling of this word) over this.

“Iva, that’s a cold, cruel and heartless statement”.

Well, you’re right — sort of. It sounds cold and cruel, with a touch of heartlessness, but the fact of the matter is, it’s the truth, and we’re going to break it down for you right here.

Now, I know this isn’t the usual stuff I write about either. I like to write about getting old and all the bullshit that goes along with that (there’s a lot of bullshit that goes along with that, trust me).

But the other day, I did a Livestream over on YouTube, and after the stream was done, a viewer left a comment that really struck me hard. Not in…