This Law of Attraction Stuff is Bullshit…or?

We have this vision in our head. We use all the tools of manifestation that we’ve been taught and know so well. We see something in our minds, we feel it, we believe it, we want it so bad it hurts. We are absolutely positively without a doubt sure that we will get what we want. Period. We believe in the law of attraction. We practice it and swear by it. But….does the law of attraction really work? Can it really bring the joy, success and wealth we deserve?

We do everything we’re supposed to according to the “law” and then the unthinkable happens. It doesn’t come to fruition. What the hell? Are you kidding me right now?

My attempt at joy and wealth!

I had 2 boxes of books I was determined to sell. I wrote this book as an eBook back in April 2014 but printed up 500 copies for those that prefer a physical copy. You could say I’m a bit of an optimist.

So I had a book signing event. Got rid of about 50. Had a sprinkling of people here and there buying a book. Dropped some off at some local stores. Sold one or two that way.

Months later, I’m starting to freak out. I have a little over 300 books sitting in a closet now that I desperately want and need to get rid of. These books cost me a ton of money and I ain’t seeing a return on my investment.

Fast forward a couple of months. Big event in Sudbury. Women’s show. I book a table. I’m gonna get all these darned books sold once and for all. And besides, the extra cash is going to come in handy this close to Christmas. Right? Surely these women will love to buy this book and they will all be sold. Boom!!

I prayed on it. visualized it. meditated on it. affirmed it. believed it. felt it. saw it. It was going to happen. No doubt in my mind. Not one single solitary doubt.

And then the unthinkable. Yup. After 3 days, I came home with a box of books, minus about 10.

How could that be? I did everything the Law of Attraction gurus teach us. I had it down to a fine art. What went wrong?

But I did all that!

The first night I sold one book. I went home shaking my head. I don’t get it. Did I miss something? An important step maybe? Is my book dumb or uninteresting? Every single form of self-doubt suddenly floods my brain. Maybe the LOA has flaws. They forgot to give us one secret, but mega important, step. I’m sure of it.

I tried again. But this time I pulled out my iPad and found something different. Something interesting. Something that was going to help me get over my disappointment. It was time to do some EFT. (this blog isn’t about EFT so if you want to know more about it, I encourage you to Google it)

15 minutes later I was free. Free from the pain and sadness, disappointment and frustration left over from the day. I was now full of hope and love, peace and happiness. And I learned something very valuable. Actually I learned two valuable lessons from that. One was that when you come from a place of desperation, the universe responds accordingly. Think about that for one minute. The other lesson I learned?


What do you value?

And the best part, the friends we make. That’s where the true value lies. For weeks leading up to this event all I could think about was the money I was going to make, maybe focused too much of my attention on that without realizing that there is truly something more important than money, and that’s relationships.

I mean, I already knew that, right? We all know that. But this is a clear case of already knowing something but actually getting the point. Like having an *in your face* a-ha moment.

I gained a couple of things this weekend that had nothing to do with money. New friendships and new bonds. Priceless. By day 3, I could care less if I sold a book or not. I was too busy having tons of fun with my new friends and spreading light and love to all the women that attended the event. Again, priceless.

Peace and Love


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