This is Why I’ve Unfollowed You

But I truly do love and care for you

I haven’t blocked you. You’re still my ‘friend’. I really do like you. I would go so far as to even say I love you. We’ve probably shared lots of fun things together. We’ve also probably shared lots of bad things together too.


I’ve unfollowed you on social media. I had to. I can’t read your shit anymore. If it makes you feel better, I’ve even unfollowed some of my own family members.

This isn’t directed to one person or a group of people or anyone really. It’s for all of you. To all of you I have unfollowed over the years. I’ve had to do some unfollowing in the past few days and thought I’d write about it.

Do what you want

First of all, let me say, you are absolutely free to post whatever the fuck you want. I’m not the social media police. If you want to fill your page with negativity and hate stuff, have at it. It’s just not my thing.

If you want to talk shit about other people, knock your socks off, but that ain’t my thing either.

It’s really just not my thing and I’m not sure why it’s your thing either. I’m not here to judge though. If that’s what makes you happy…but…how can it?

How can it possibly make you a happier or better person when all you post is hateful political memes, update statuses that shit on other people, stories that are filled with judgment and negativity?

How does any of this make the world a better place or you a better person? It doesn’t. None of it does.

All it does is spread more hate and toxicity. Why would you want to do that? Can’t you see this world has enough hate in it already? Why you do want to add to it?

You chase happiness and claim you want a better life but you immerse yourself in negativity and toxicity. That’s one sure way to never be happy.

You point fingers and judge people. You gossip and spread rumours. I can’t be part of any of that either.

You don’t have to gaf

I’m sure you don’t really care what I think and that’s cool. Like, why should you gaf anyway if I like your shit or not? You won’t lose any sleep if one person unfollows you or maybe even unfriends and/or blocks you.

I mean, you aren’t posting your shit just for me anyway.

To be honest, when people unfollow me idrgaf either. It surprises me though, I gotta tell ya, because all I ever post is positive uplifting stuff. Is it too much for them to handle? 🤷‍♀️

Do my positive and happy posts choke you? Make you cringe maybe? Too much? That’s cool. I guess we’re even then.

But I want you to know something…

When you immerse yourself in a world of hate and negativity, they will continue to follow you. You will always be agitated and angry. Nothing will ever go right and life will be one shit show after the next.

When you immerse yourself in a world of positivity and love, well, you can see where I’m going here.

I’m not saying your life will be constantly filled with rainbows, unicorns, and lollipops but sure as shit, chances are you’ll have more good stuff in your life if you follow the joyful path.

For most of my life, anger, hurt and hatred were front and center.


I finally took the step to wipe it all out of my life. To speak more love than hate, to read more love than hate, to listen to more love than hate.

And a beautiful thing happened. Can you guess?

Yup. My life slowly became more joyful. I was happier, cheerier and finally I was looking forward to brighter days ahead of me. My life isn’t perfect but it sure is a ton better than it was back in my hate-filled days.

I don’t have the energy or desire to involve myself in hate and toxicity anymore. It’s too heavy and dark for my sensitive heart. Nothing good comes from it.

Sorry, not sorry

But my sweet sensitive soul has unfollowed you. I choose peace and love. Always. So I’m sorry if I’m not engaging, commenting, liking or sharing your toxic shit.

I just can’t anymore. It doesn’t serve me well. It doesn’t serve you well and it doesn’t serve the world well either.

But I ask you, just for one day, could you try to post happy fun things?

Just for one day.

For one day, only read positive uplifting stories.

For one day, say nice things about others and lift someone up.

For one day, be more grateful for all the awesome things in your life.

For one day, spread cheer and kindness, and love.

For one day, smile more and help others.

For one day, post happier things.

Just try this, for one day. I can’t promise you that your whole life will turn around in 24 hours but I can assure you of one thing, it will be one day less of hate and negativity.

You may even like it so much you’ll try it again for another day. And another day.

Just try, for one day.

I love you ❤

Peace and Love

xo iva xo

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