The #1 Reason Why Most Shit Just Doesn’t Matter

And why you need to chill the fuck out.

You know this whole grown up adult life thing can be trying sometimes, amirite? Work, life, kids, spouse, neighbours, the list goes on and on. It’s one thing after another most days. It’s a good day if you made it through to the end without swearing at someone, flipping the bird to the asshole who just cut you off or hollering at your kids.

Yup, it’s a good day if you made it through without any form of drama, chaos or anxiety.

I don’t let most stuff get to me. Ever. Really.

For the most part, most of it just doesn’t matter to me. The life I had back in Northern Ontario Canada was one full of anxiety and stress and crap. Lots and lots of crap. And then…

I finally just tapped the fuck out!

And then I just about had had enough. Life was brutal. So much stuff to stress about and worry about I just couldn’t stand it anymore. I was hating my life and questioned my existence almost every damn day. Why, who, where, when, and what. But mostly why, just why (and a whole lot of wtf moments)?

Everything was drama. Chaos. Anxiety. Stress. Good grief. I found myself wondering, really, what on earth am I here for anyway? It was time to tap out. Tune in, turn on, I dunno. Something had to give. And give it did.

I sold, donated and gave away 95% of my life, packed what was left, bought a one way ticket and off to a third world country I went. No clue what the fuck I was doing, no answers, many questions but mostly, I just really didn’t give a fuck anymore. I was totally tapping out.

So let me tell ya. When you move to a third world country, all the silly stuff you used to stress about in the life you knew before means absolutely nothing. Nudda, zippo, zilch. It puts life in a whole new perspective.

All those questions I had before, why, when, who, where and what, meant nothing and there were no answers to any of them. They didn’t even require answers.

Just live, love, laugh and let go. That’s the real answer to most of our problems right there.

I know, easier said then done. Hear me out.

We are here for joy

We suffer and worry needlessly for things that generally don’t matter after one day, one week, one month and especially not after one year. We are not here to suffer and be miserable. We are here for joy. Ridiculous joy. That’s why we are here.

We are also here to love, be love, spread love, receive love, feel love, and everything else that involves love. Love solves problems. Not hate or anger or misery. Love. Love is the only thing that fixes broken things.

Well maybe not your car or your toaster or even your washing machine but if you send some love energy to it, it may get fixed faster.

Why it doesn’t matter.

Because most of it means little to nothing. Because it’s all right, alright? Your TV is broken. Big deal. You lost your job, get another one or better yet, create your own. You have no money and can’t pay your rent. Find a way. The universe is generous. Figure it out.

Your child failed a subject. So what? You know, we spend so much time fretting over stuff that just doesn’t matter. In the grand scheme of things and life, these little “glitches”, if you will, just don’t matter that much. Embrace them, learn the lesson from them, and grow.

Oh and all those people who are whining and complaining about the terrible relationship they are in? Don’t even get me started on that. Been there done that and left. Remember, you are in control of your life and your happiness. With that said….

Just stop!!!

Stop wasting so much of your energy on things that won’t make a difference in the future, near or far. And for God’s sake, stop wasting your energy on things you can’t control OR things you can control but you don’t do anything about.

If you aren’t doing anything to improve your life or your circumstances, then you don’t get to complain, stress or whine about it. Period. I know that sounds cold and heartless but I can say that because I was that person once upon a time. All I did was whine, bitch and complain. It was pathetic. I was pathetic.

Laugh, live and love. And then watch how your life changes and all those little annoying things you are stressing over, just won’t matter so much anymore.

Who’s up for some stargazing tonight?

Peace and Love

xo iva xo

Self help Guru|Expat|Website: mini self help eBook series here:

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