No One is Coming To Save You, Capiche?

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No one. Nope. There’s no magic wand. No sprinkling of fairy pixie dust that is going to make all your troubles miraculously disappear.

Nope. Not a goddamn thing that is gonna save your ass now. You’re on your own sunshine.

I know you desperately want someone to fix you, take all your problems away. Make everything be better again. Life fucking sucks monkey balls and you’re about ready to tap out.

You secretly want to curl up in a ball and die. “How is this my life”, you wonder! How did everything just end up so wrong? When will it stop? Why can’t things just be better…now!….dammit.

This was me about 4 yrs ago when I crashed into rock bottom. It was honestly hell on earth. If you’ve ever visited rock bottom you know exactly what I’m talking about. If you haven’t, my hope is that you never have to and maybe even this article will save you from that.

If you take a minute to read the article below, it will give you a small glimpse into what rock bottom feels like.

So nothing is working, life is shit, you’re pissed off at the whole fucking world. You blame John for this and Sally for that. This thing is mom and dad’s fault and your last boss left this horrible scar on your skin.

I could go on. I don’t have to. You get it. Everything is wrong and none of it is your fault. Amirite?

This can’t be my fault. He did that to me, she did this to me, they did that to me.

Can we stop pointing fingers please and placing blame everywhere else? Does it really matter whose fucking fault it is anyway? NO! It doesn’t. Whatever is going on in your life right now, whatever shit you are going through, or should I say, whatever troubles you keep clinging to from the past, it’s all yours.

It’s no one else’s job to fix you, take your problems away or make things right. Stop blaming everyone else. It’s time for you to take responsibility of your life!

In the great words of Cher from Moonstruck “Snap out of it!!”

You know what, let’s play this “well he did this to me” game for a sec.

My ex emotionally and verbally abused me for 8 yrs. It was horrible, bla bla bla. So because of him I have all this trauma and anxiety and hate and anger in my life?

Nope. Actually he did abuse me BUT I don’t have any of those negative emotions going on anymore. Know why? Because they were causing me sadness and misery and this is my life and I need to take control of my emotions, my past and my life.

It’s mine to fix and I fucking fixed it.

No one was going to do that for me.

I hate my job and I don’t make enough money and I’m tired of being broke and there are no jobs to be found….etc. Yup, that’s shitty. I’ve been there. Haven’t most of us?

Learn a new skill, take a skill you already have and learn how to make money from it, do whatever the fuck it takes to fix this.

Stop waiting for people to fix all the shit that’s going wrong in your life. It’s not their job, it’s your job. It’s just your job.

The more time you waste waiting for apologies that never come, holding onto grudges that no longer serve you and pointing fingers at everyone who did you wrong, the less time you have to a) fix your shit and b) be happy.

You are hanging on to so much negative toxic bullshit that isn’t serving you very well. It never did and it never will.

Get a grip, get a hold of your life and save yourself. Release the past, focus on the here and now and prepare for a brighter future!

You’re welcome ❤

Peace and Love

xo iva xo

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