I’d Rather Be Alone Than Be With You

You=the wrong person

Iva Ursano



To be alone or not to be. To be lonely or not to be. Which is it? Are you lonely or alone? Maybe a bit of both? Is it really better to be alone than it is to be lonely? Being lonely certainly does suck but it’s way better than being with the wrong person.

I’ve been alone and lonely at the same time in a relationship and both on my own as a single person. For me, as a Libra, I’ve always had the desire, the longing and the yearning to be part of duo, a team, a relationship, his princess, somebody’s wife. I’ve longed for it, wanted it so bad it almost hurt to not have it. A Libra woman likes to be in a relationship. We like balance.

To not have this causes a great deal of anxiety. For me, anyway. Or should I say, it used to. Not so much anymore. At 56 years old I’ve learned to love my own company and everything about me but I do have to admit, as a single woman, sometimes I do get slightly lonely, very rarely but it happens. Being lonely feels slightly different to me now.

There are times when I wish I had someone to walk down the street holding hands with, someone to have a nice romantic dinner with, someone to surprise me with a lovely bouquet of flowers. Yup, sometimes I wish for all that again. But……….

Being alone…

For me this is what to be alone means….

You are alone, in your own space, you still feel love and peace and contentment. You don’t have the need to be with people or feel anxiety because you are not with people. You are alone and you are happy. It feels good. You know that being alone is necessary for your well being. It’s good to have this space on your own and feel at peace.

There is no sadness, sorrow, feelings of being lonely, left out, neglected or ignored. It just is and you accept it for what it is and appreciate it. It’s a happy peaceful place.

You can be in a relationship and still have alone time (actually you should be able to have your own space and alone time even in a relationship).

Being lonely…

Again, this is what lonely means to me…