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You’re gonna be ok, I promise


Wouldn’t it be nice if life was just smooth sailing all the time? No cares, no struggles, no trauma, no stress. A dream life, yes? Unfortunately, it doesn’t really go down like that. Getting through hard times can often be a challenge and exhausting for so many of us.

Really crappy things happen that send us flying backwards. Most of the time, things happen we simply don’t know how to handle or deal with. And we break. Hard.

We all deal with situations differently. Some let certain things just roll off their back while those same certain things could be…

An open letter to myself


I hit a low point recently and felt like I was being swallowed up by defeat, shame, and worthlessness. I’ve been here before and it’s not pretty. My business crash in October 2020 had me curled up in a ball wishing the earth would stop revolving and please let me off.

I’m so tired. And I’m not getting any younger. I was starting to feel completely hopeless and done. So done. With everything. I wondered how much more I could take and how much more I would have to put up with in this thing called life.

Life is exhausting.

An open letter to myself

And why do we even bother?


People these days seem to be forgetting something that’s so crucial to the future of the world and it boggles my mind. But not just any ‘people’. Adults! Parents. Teachers. Mentors. Role Models. Rock stars. Actors. Athletes. Politicians. All adults on the planet!

We lead by example.

There’s a popular old saying that goes something like this:

Monkey see monkey do

Remember that one when you were growing up?

You’d be outside playing with your friends and then that one ‘kid’ would come around. The one who no one liked and he would imitate what you were doing because all…

Can you at least do one thing?


Just for today…

Can you be kind to a stranger? A homeless person? A person who looks sad and lonely? Can you offer them company or kindness? Can you somehow cheer them up, give them hope, and restore their faith in humanity?

Just for today…

Can you not judge someone by their appearance? Can you not point fingers and whisper things to your friend about “that” person? Can you simply look at a person and accept them for exactly who they are?

Just for today…

Can you speak only positive words? No complaining, no whining, no bitching, no words of…

On taking responsibility for my life


How many of you started out 2020 with those exact words? “This is gonna be my year” and then it all went to hell. For everyone. Myself included. But I have to be honest about something. 2020 actually WAS my year until my business collapsed in October.

Ironically enough, Covid had nothing to do with it.

My year of exponential growth

My year started out with great enthusiasm, lofty goals and visions of ending 2020 successfully reaching 6 figures. I worked my ass off. I purchased SEO courses and eBooks. I was going to make it happen, come Hell or high water.

By the time…

But you could make way more than that!!!

Before I begin I gotta tell you, I’m not a huge fan of having a million plugins or ‘things’ on my site that will take away from the quality and the content. Yes I have ads but those pretty much support the site and help me pay my rent and bills. And buy food.

You know, the necessities of life.

One day while I was reading posts in a blogging group I belong to, someone was talking about this neat little button that brings them in some fun extra money.

Wait. I want fun extra money too please!!

So in…

Health humour

Why are there instructions?


So on December 25th I did the impossible, again. I mean, it’s not the first time I’ve done this. I truly just hope it’ll be my last. I gave myself the gift of life and quit smoking.

So why do I say ‘the impossible’? If you’ve ever been a smoker and quit, you’ll understand that statement. It always seems possible until we try to do it, don’t succeed and then cry to ourselves “this is impossible”.


I can’t do this alone

Well, yes of course I can do this alone. Like no one can help me. But I can’t do it cold turkey. Nope…

When will you learn?

Here we go. New Year New Me crap has officially arrived. Joy oh bliss. The proverbial *New Year’s Resolutions* have been made and set, in stone, er I mean sand.

How did your resolutions turn out for you in 2020? Haha! Ya, that’s just me being a total bitch. I have my moments. If you’re wondering how mine went, they didn’t. I don’t make ’em anymore.

Forgive me for sounding so, oh what’s the word, negative? Sarcastic perhaps? We’ll go with the latter as I try to stay away from negative stuff of all kinds, especially my blog posts.


And what you should spend your money on instead

There was a time when my Chrome Extension bar had a million different icons, many of them specifically for keyword search. I have one now. Just one. And it tells me everything I need. And best part of it all, it’s FREE!

I gotta be honest though, when I first started blogging I didn’t even know what SEO or keywords were. Clueless. I just wrote and wrote and hoped that the billions of people around the world would just find mine awesome site and blogs.

Little did I know it doesn’t work like that. Keywords are super important. …

A sad note from an unsubscriber


I woke up to that message this morning from an email newsletter subscriber. She was unsubscribing. I’m ok with that. I probably get about 1–3 unsubscribes a month maybe.

All good. People generally like to sign up, get their free gift and then bolt. I’m just as guilty of doing that but only if the person who is sending out newsletters bombards me twice a day. Then I’ll bang that unsubscribe button.


Those who unsubscribe usually just say “I have no time to read all these” or “I get too many emails”. I get it. I try not to…

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