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Can you at least do one thing?

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Just for today…

Can you be kind to a stranger? A homeless person? A person who looks sad and lonely? Can you offer them company or kindness? Can you somehow cheer them up, give them hope, and restore their faith in humanity?

Just for today…

Can you not judge someone by their appearance? Can you not point fingers and whisper things to your friend about “that” person? Can you simply look at a person and accept them for exactly who they are?

Just for today…

Can you speak only positive words? No complaining, no whining, no bitching, no words of despair or hopelessness. …

On taking responsibility for my life

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How many of you started out 2020 with those exact words? “This is gonna be my year” and then it all went to hell. For everyone. Myself included. But I have to be honest about something. 2020 actually WAS my year until my business collapsed in October.

Ironically enough, Covid had nothing to do with it.

My year of exponential growth

My year started out with great enthusiasm, lofty goals and visions of ending 2020 successfully reaching 6 figures. I worked my ass off. I purchased SEO courses and eBooks. I was going to make it happen, come Hell or high water.

By the time my business collapsed I was nowhere near 6 figures but was still quite proud of the progress I had made and held out for hope that 2021 would definitely be my 6 figure year. …

But you could make way more than that!!!

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Before I begin I gotta tell you, I’m not a huge fan of having a million plugins or ‘things’ on my site that will take away from the quality and the content. Yes I have ads but those pretty much support the site and help me pay my rent and bills. And buy food.

You know, the necessities of life.

One day while I was reading posts in a blogging group I belong to, someone was talking about this neat little button that brings them in some fun extra money.

Wait. I want fun extra money too please!!

So in true Iva fashion, I did some research, gave it a thumbs up, created an account, and stuck it on my site. …

Health humour

Why are there instructions?

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So on December 25th I did the impossible, again. I mean, it’s not the first time I’ve done this. I truly just hope it’ll be my last. I gave myself the gift of life and quit smoking.

So why do I say ‘the impossible’? If you’ve ever been a smoker and quit, you’ll understand that statement. It always seems possible until we try to do it, don’t succeed and then cry to ourselves “this is impossible”.


I can’t do this alone

Well, yes of course I can do this alone. Like no one can help me. But I can’t do it cold turkey. Nope. I tried that one too many times and that just ends up being a big fat disaster (read=I didn’t succeed). …

When will you learn?

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Here we go. New Year New Me crap has officially arrived. Joy oh bliss. The proverbial *New Year’s Resolutions* have been made and set, in stone, er I mean sand.

How did your resolutions turn out for you in 2020? Haha! Ya, that’s just me being a total bitch. I have my moments. If you’re wondering how mine went, they didn’t. I don’t make ’em anymore.

Forgive me for sounding so, oh what’s the word, negative? Sarcastic perhaps? We’ll go with the latter as I try to stay away from negative stuff of all kinds, especially my blog posts.

So, yes, it’s new year’s resolution time again as everyone gets ready to set themselves up for another year of misses, failures, and disappointments. …

And what you should spend your money on instead

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There was a time when my Chrome Extension bar had a million different icons, many of them specifically for keyword search. I have one now. Just one. And it tells me everything I need. And best part of it all, it’s FREE!

I gotta be honest though, when I first started blogging I didn’t even know what SEO or keywords were. Clueless. I just wrote and wrote and hoped that the billions of people around the world would just find mine awesome site and blogs.

Little did I know it doesn’t work like that. Keywords are super important. …

A sad note from an unsubscriber

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I woke up to that message this morning from an email newsletter subscriber. She was unsubscribing. I’m ok with that. I probably get about 1–3 unsubscribes a month maybe.

All good. People generally like to sign up, get their free gift and then bolt. I’m just as guilty of doing that but only if the person who is sending out newsletters bombards me twice a day. Then I’ll bang that unsubscribe button.


Those who unsubscribe usually just say “I have no time to read all these” or “I get too many emails”. I get it. I try not to flood your inbox. I’m rather consistently inconsistent. …

And you can too!!

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Anyone can make money writing as long as you can string a few words together to make a bunch of sentences, you’re pretty much good to go.

I never once thought in a million years I’d become a writer for a living. Funny how life works out sometimes.

Now while I’m not an outstanding writer like Stephen King or J. K. Rowling I do ok and get by. Would I like to make millions like them? Who wouldn’t?

My problem is, I’m too fucking lazy to write a novel.

How to make money writing online

Many of my friends and family still have no clue how I make money writing online. I mean, they see that I write. Sometimes they even read my shit. …

Losing focus of what really matters

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Hello, my name is Iva and I’m a numbers whore. There, I said it. I used to be addicted to stats, charts and numbers. Oh how I loved to watch my numbers grow.

Bigger, faster, higher, go go gooooooo!! (well that sounds awkward)

And then I’d brag about it. But not in an egotistical way. No no that’s not me. I would share them and splatter them all over for everyone to see.

“If I can do this so can you!!”

That was always my mission. Let me show you how popular and successful I am, follow what I did, and you can be just as successful. It was awesome. I loved sharing my numbers and success. …

I’m not changing who I am

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I’ll be honest. I had no idea what toxic positivity was. Until someone accused me of being just that. So naturally, I had to Google it.

Now in case you’re not sure what it means, here’s the definition:

Clinical psychologist Dr Jaime Zuckerman explains: “Toxic positivity is a societal assumption that a person, despite their emotional pain or gravity of their situation, should only strive to have a positive outlook.

Guilty as charged!

I believe that no matter how bad things are you need to see the bright side, or “the positive side “ of it. I believe that things always work out. …

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