Ah, it’s holiday time. Yippee yahoo. For many, it’s fun and family and feasts. And then there’s the rest of us who are alone for Christmas. Some don’t mind it, some find it very difficult.
I’ve managed to learn how to deal with loneliness during the holidays and now 5 years later it doesn’t really bother me anymore. Don’t get me wrong. I’d love to go back to the time my son was young and there were tons of presents under the tree and lots of yummy food and family and friends.
But those days are over. And that’s ok. I hold onto those memories :)
Being alone for Christmas used to suck a lot
Some manage ok, others struggle. The first two years or so was really hard for me. One year I went back to Canada to be with family, but the other 4 I have been alone for the holidays.
This year I am without family again, but 5 years in Guatemala and I now have some fantastic friends who I can call family. I’m blessed. I’m still alone on Christmas morning, which has always been the most exciting day for me ever as a mom.
Now I just wake up and kinda pretend it’s just another day. I think being without family and friends and being in a different country really gives you a whole new perspective on this holiday.
So how do you deal with loneliness during Christmas (and other holidays for that matter)?
Here are my 7 super fun tips. I hope you try at least 2 or 3 and at some point during the day, you can smile, laugh and have fun!
What you can do on Christmas Day without family?
Well, I’m gonna share at least 7 things with you, and all super awesome things too but if you have any other ideas please feel free to share them in the comments section below!
We all have different ways that resonate with us to spend Christmas alone with no family or friends. Some people actually just like to sit alone all day and be by themselves and that’s cool too as long as you aren’t spending the whole day feeling lonely or too sad.
7 ways to get through Christmas alone
These are just a few of the things that you can do but maybe you can think of others that resonate with you more? Whatever the case may be, please don’t spend another holiday feeling lonely, sad or depressed.
My favourite thing in the whole wide world to do!!!
There are so many organizations and/or shelters that always need an extra pair of helping hands. Call one up and go help. You will not find more love and happy cheery faces than in a place like a shelter where they are all so happy to see volunteers.
Trust me, you will feel loved! If you’re not so much into being with people, I’m sure the animal shelter regular staff/volunteers wouldn’t mind a break during the holidays.
You can even just walk up and down your main downtown area and find homeless people there who might want some company. Go grab a couple of coffees or hot chocolates and sit with one.
Now I get that this year (covid year…ugh) has stopped many of us in our tracks, but I think you can still safely volunteer. Call your fave place and find out what the protocol is.
Have a “me” day!
Now this may sound sort of backwards. I mean, we don’t want to be alone for Christmas, right? But hear me out on this one. Being alone and actually having a “me day” are two different things.
Buy yourself a present, fill your stocking if you want. Stay in your pj’s all day. Watch Netflix all damn day. I mean, if you’re gonna be alone at least have some fun!
Put on your favourite Christmas songs and sing at the top of your lungs. Don’t like Christmas songs? Fine then! Sing whatever you want but just have some fun!!
It’s just another day
Ok, it’s not, I get that. It’s a pretty darn special day actually. But we’re alone and everyone around us is celebrating and we’re not. It sucks, I so get that.
I hooked up with another Canadian expat and we went swimming in the lake. Just another day.
Yup, to me, and in my mind, it was just another day. It lessened the risk of Christmas depression for me and helped me not feel sorry for myself.
Go on a road trip
If you can and are able, get in the car and get outta town. Go on a road trip, go to another little town in your area, perhaps one you haven’t been to in a long time.
Or go to a quiet serene area, have a picnic and cry your eyes if you have to. Just leave town. You don’t have to leave the country. Even a short road trip is very therapeutic.
Visit a nursing home
(sorry if you can’t do this due to covid)
Also many of those cute old folks don’t have any family or friends at all. How can that not hurt your heart even a little??
Bring some treats (maybe even slip a bottle of Brandy or wine in!..HA!) and go make someone feel super special on this day. And trust me, you’ll feel incredibly happy too!
Go on a date
Take yourself out on a date! I mean, why not? Lots of places are still open. Movie theatres, restaurants, hell I think even some malls are open!
Put on your favourite Christmas outfit, grab your credit card and go.
You never know who you’re going to meet while you’re out dining or shopping alone. You’re actually not alone. There are lots of us out there who have no family or friends at Christmas too so you just may make some new friends!
Call up an old friend
You know you’re not totally alone for Christmas. You already know a few other friends, who maybe don’t live in the same town as you anymore, who are also alone for the holidays.
Call ’em up! And isn’t technology wonderful these days? Zoom, Facebook video call, Google Duo, I mean come on. The possibilities are endlesssssss!
Text your friend and give them a head’s up that you are calling or set a time to get together on a video call. Why not gather up a few more friends and have a group call? Like come on!!
This sounds like so much fun, amirite?
Being alone for Christmas doesn’t have to suck!
Now I get that this can be an especially sad day for some people but it doesn’t have to be. Instead of feeling dread and anxiety over the upcoming holiday you can switch your mentality from “ugh another sad Christmas alone” to “ok I’m going to make the best of this day!”.
Embrace another day above ground. Enjoy the fact that you are alive and way more blessed than others.
You can fight off feeling lonely at Christmas and have a fun day or you can wallow in pity. The choice is yours.
Find others who are spending Christmas alone
Honestly, there are so many other lonely people in the world who wish they had company, just like you. Many cities also have dinners for people who are single, or have no family or friends at Christmas at their local churches and halls and such. Go check one out.
The possibilities are endless! Imagine the friendships that can be formed.
Not only that, you may want to start volunteering or helping others on a more regular basis. It could actually lead you to your life’s purpose! Who knows? Open your mind, open your heart, allow in opportunities.
“Do you hear what I heeeeeeeeeeeear?”
Peace and Love