6 Things You Better Do in 2019 Or Your Life Will Suck Again

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The new year is fast approaching. I can’t even believe it’s already Christmas. I sit here alone and type this out for you on Christmas day. I’m alone this year. I celebrated last night with some of my expat friends here in Guatemala. Fun was had by all. I knew I’d be working today but that’s ok. When you love what you do it’s not work.

So I’ve been sitting here reflecting on the holidays, the last week of December and the work I need to do and also reflecting on the last year. 2018 was a trip, amirite? Phew. Such an interesting mix of good and bad. I can’t say I had more bad than good but I certainly had some distressing moments. Here are the ones that stand out in my mind:

  • my earnings took a huge hit in February
  • I had to beg and borrow from family to carry me through the next few months
  • I started smoking again (ugh)
  • the man I was dating for a year went back home to the US in May
  • me and a family member fell apart

So you can see, I had some rough patches. I’m still struggling with a few of them, the ones that are in my control, like smoking and getting my earnings back up. The rest are out of my control.

Ah well, those are behind me now.

I’d like to share them with you. And, like me, take what you need and leave the rest.

6 Things You Must Do in the New Year

Immerse yourself in learning new things.

Take some time each week to learn something new. You never know when you’re going to need it or how useful it will be for you in the future. And you aren’t dumb either. You can learn anything you put your mind to.

Use your voice more often

Stand up for what you believe in. Don’t agree with everyone just for the sake of fitting in or to avoid an argument. Find your voice and use it. Speak up and speak out. People will learn to listen and respect you more.

Get up fast when you’ve been kicked down

When something doesn’t go our way, it’s the Universe keeping us from something that is no longer good for us or trying to get our attention and steer us in another direction. Things happen for a reason. Sorry to have to throw that cliche at you but it’s true.

We may not find out the reason for a very long time. That’s ok. Just get back up anyway, rethink your strategy and start something else.

Stop guarding your heart

Love is to be felt, enjoyed and shared. Don’t regret anything about love and stop locking up your heart. You’re only depriving yourself of the most beautiful feeling in the world. Yes, sometimes hurt comes after love. Love is still more beautiful and powerful than any hurt. Embrace love.

Push the envelope

We say no to new adventures or opportunities because of lack of self confidence. We don’t think we’re good enough, smart enough or whatever enough. You most certainly are good enough. Say yes more to things in the new year and figure out how to do them later. The answers will come. Trust me on that.

Leave the pain behind

Do yourself a big favour. Release it all now. Forgive those who hurt you. Write yourself an open letter to all who have hurt you ( I call them truth letters), pour out all your anger and hatred, and then let it go. Burn or shred the letter and move on. You have got to get rid of this pain once and for all. You’re only hurting yourself more and more.

An open letter to all who hurt me

  • sit quietly with no distractions
  • turn on some nice soft music and light candles or burn essential oil (lavender is best)
  • notepad and pen or computer in Word, whatever, just start writing
  • get out all the hurt, the things that annoyed you and made you angry
  • write until you can’t write anymore
  • read it back, cry your eyes out, breathe deep and then
  • burn it!

Trust me on this one, you will never feel so much liberation until you do this. This is one of the best forgiveness and release techniques I have ever done. Try it and see.

Remember, it’s new year new me time, right? It’s important to look back at what went wrong, what went right and what didn’t go at all. Take all these things, evaluate them and formulate a new plan and stick to it!!

You don’t want a repeat of 2018 (unless of course your 2018 was magnificent and mind blowing!).

Peace and Love

xo iva xo

Originally published at amazingmemovement.com on December 25, 2018.

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Self help Guru|Expat|Website: https://amazingmemovement.com/ mini self help eBook series here: https://books.amazingmemovement.com/

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