23 Brutal Truths About Life

That will change the way you think

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Life is a funny thing isn’t it? I mean not funny ha ha but funny hmmmm. We’re stuck in a belly for approximately 9 months, we’re born, we go through this labyrinth for an undetermined time and then poof, we’re gone.

In my time here on planet earth I have learned a shit ton of things about life. Haven’t we all? I’m going to share 23 of my favourite ones here with you now.

You know what else is interesting about this life thing? The rules and regulations that everyone thinks they need to follow. Well, I mean besides the obvious ones:

  • don’t drink and drive

Some rules are ok to break. Blaze your own goddamn trail. Don’t follow the crowd. Dance to the beat of your own drum…you get the idea.

We drift through life almost with blinders on and we forgot some certain key parts about life. Somewhere between teenage years and now, we forgot some seriously important stuff.

We know what it is. These truths about life aren’t a secret. We’ve always known them but the problem is we’ve forgotten them. Didn’t give them as much thought as they deserved.

Or maybe we’ve ignored some of them because we thought they were just malarkey. They weren’t.

So what is life?

Ok so I know this is kind of a no brainer question. What is life? But I want to dig a wee bit deeper into this question. So many of us think exactly what I mentioned above, we’re born, we go through a labyrinth and then we die.

But what about that labyrinth? It’s what we do in there that matters.

I believe we all have a purpose here. Each and every one of us has a gift, a skill, a special talent, if you will, that we are given and either we embrace it and share it or we ignore it, deny it and walk through life with blinders on.

I think it’s important to know, and for some odd reason so many forget this one simple thing, that we only have one shot at life. One chance to live through this and either make it mindblowing and amazing or suffer until we die.

It’s entirely up to you. You are where you are right now because of the choices you’ve made. Sorry not sorry.

23 Deep truths about life that will change the way you think

Before I go on I should confess to one teeny thing.

I never really cared much about some of the ‘life advice’ people would give me. I do this thing called whatever the fuck I want. I ignored everyone. But here I am today, 50 something years old and now thinking to myself ‘ah …they were right’.

In my opinion (you can throw tomatoes at me later) I don’t think we ever fully understand all the little truths about life until we are in our 50’s. We’ve reached a half way point in our lives, if you will, and we can look back and think to ourselves ok I get it now.

Maybe this happens to some of us in our 30’s or 40’s or maybe it even happens after a tragic life incident (i.e. death of a family member). Whatever the case may be, and without further babbling…

Here are some truths about life that I would like to share with you now. Take what you want, leave the rest and oh, if you feel called to do so, please share.

Everything is temporary

Yup. Even life. Now that’s really important for two reasons.

  1. You shouldn’t take things too seriously because tomorrow it won’t matter anymore, and

We spend too much time, or wait, waste too much time worrying about stuff that doesn’t matter and never will and we don’t spend enough time doing the really important things: laughing, loving, living and enjoying life.

Everything is temporary…chill the fuck out.

You should be kind more often

I mean it. We aren’t as kind as we should be, we could be, and need to be. The world is in desperate need of healers, helpers and lovers. The world has much hate and anger and the only way to cure that is with love. What is life or should I say, how horrible will life be, if we are all mean?

Be kind to your neighbour (yes even the jerk), be kind to the homeless person, teach your children kindness, hell teach your grandma kindness if you have to. Spread more love, less hate.

You’re not stuck

Ever, anywhere. You’re not a tree. If you are in a relationship or job that you absolutely dislike and is not serving your higher good, do whatever you have to do to get out of it.

Start looking into leaving, moving, getting a better job, improving necessary skills to change careers….whatever. Do it. What is life if you’re just gonna sit and stagnate? That’s not living.

Things change in a split second

Yup, that fast. You could go into work today and your boss will tell you the business is closing. You could get a call from your kid’s school saying he got into an accident or, worse yet, the school was attacked by a shooter (just typing that out rips my heart as I can’t believe this happens in the world).

I mean my God, looks what’s happening in the world right now!! (world wide virus)

You can fall and break your leg.

Do you get it? At a moment’s notice, your whole life can turn upside down. BE GRATEFUL every damn day and don’t take life for granted.

People are people and we’re all in this together

Treat people nicely. We all have stories, some good, some bad, some horrible. Don’t judge. We all breathe the same air and look at the same moon and stars.

The guy you snubbed on the street yesterday could be the guy who will help you change your flat tire tomorrow.

We all have struggles, we all have sorrows, we all have a little imperfection in us but we all have good in us. We do. Look for the good and treat people like you want to be treated.

We’re all in this labyrinth together and we’re all just trying to find our way out the best way we can.

Chill out.

Yes at times we have to take life kinda seriously but not so seriously that we actually forget that we are here to LIVE, not just exist. Don’t get so worked up over something that it ruins your entire day. Remember truth #1, everything is temporary.

Learn to take time to relax, stop and smell the roses.

Patience obtains all things

I love this one for so many reasons. We live in a society where we want things and we want them right now! Life doesn’t work like that though. Sometimes you have to wait for things or work for things just a wee bit harder…or

Maybe you should just trust that the Universe heard you and will deliver your ‘thing’ all in good time.

Gratitude brings surprises and miracles

The more gratitude you show, the more thing will show up in your life to be grateful for. Don’t believe me? Try it. Wake up every day and say thank you before you get out of bed. Say thank you for your coffeemaker, your tea pot, the sunrise, your eyes that help you see.

You get the point. Practicing gratitude will help you forget about your troubles and bring more blessings.

You are what you think

This one may annoy or irritate a few people but here goes anyway.

If you think you’re stupid and ugly, guess what? You are.

If you think you are beautiful and smart, you are.

If your life is sh*t and you keep saying it is, then, well, it is.

Your mind has more power than you think it does. Your mind controls your life (and your emotions) if you keep thinking negative stuff, your life will be filled with negative stuff. This is one of the most powerful truths about life in my opinion.

Do yourself a favour, start thinking more positive things.

Your life is a result of your choices

Sorry not sorry, again. But yes, where you are right now in life is a result of the choices you’ve made. It’s no one’s fault but your own. I know, hard pill to swallow but it’s true.

If you don’t like where you are, you’re not a fucking tree. Move. Change.

Worrying is a waste of energy

Eeyup. Sure is. The more you worry, the more stressed you get and the less time you have being happy. And to top it all off, most of the stuff we worry about doesn’t even happen.

We’re not here to be miserable and stressed out. We’re here for joy. Don’t worry about stuff so much. Everything always works out the way it’s supposed to.

Everything always works out

Ok so maybe not the way you planned it or wanted it to but at the end of the day, everything always works out. You have to remember that you are only in control of a few things. Your thoughts, your actions and your happiness.

Everything else is out of your hands. Stop trying to control things and let them naturally unfold.

You can’t control everything

For the love of God and everything holy, stop trying. Read above ^. These are the only things you can control. You can’t (or shouldn’t) control people. You’re not the boss of anyone.

You can’t control the outcome of a situation. Trust that the outcome will be for your highest good and everyone else involved. And let it go.

Holding on is toxic

I think of all the truths about life, I’d have to say this one is high on the importance scale. It’s toxic to hold on to grudges, people, and other things that heavily weigh us down. Especially grudges/hate/anger.

You have got to let things go. And move on with your life. Your happiness is on the other side of this toxicity. Trust me on that one.

People show up as lessons or blessings

People come into our lives for one of two reasons: either they are a lesson or a blessing. If they are a lesson it’s because they are trying to teach us something about ourselves that we have yet to learn.

If they are blessing, embrace that!

We show people how to treat us

This is a hard pill to swallow and one of the tougher truths about life to accept but it’s true. If you don’t have any respect for yourself, how do you expect people to respect you?

If you don’t love yourself, how do you expect others to love you? How we treat ourselves shows others how to treat us too.

Hurt people hurt people

This is a tough one but it’s so, well, true!!! If someone lashes out at you or hurts you, don’t lash back or try to hurt them back. Hurt people will hurt other people.

They are broken and sad inside and that’s all they know how to do. They really just need and want love. Just give them love.

You can’t fix anyone

As much as you want to, you can’t (unless you’re a doctor?). We are all broken and damaged in our own special ways but until we decide to heal our broken pieces, they will stay broken.

You can’t make anyone heal and you can’t fix anyone. They have to want to fix themselves first. All you can do is be by their side while they do heal.

Money can buy happiness, but it’s temporary

Yes you read that right, money can buy happiness and for those who say it doesn’t have obviously never seen the look on a poor person’s face when someone gives them money.

But that’s not what I mean here anyway. Yes money can buy happiness but it’s temporary. Remember #1. Everything is temporary. And if you are shopping because you are stressed and that new dress just made you happy, in two weeks it won’t make a difference anymore and you’ll be unhappy again.

Love doesn’t hurt, people do

Love is beautiful and amazing and warm and it feels like sunshine. Chances are you will probably never stop loving someone, anyone, who was in your life. They may have turned out to be big fat jerks but at one time you loved them and you won’t forget that.

It’s what people do to us when we are in love that hurts. Not love, the people who love us.

First impressions count more than you think

Whether we want to admit it or not, we still judge someone on their outward appearance. We immediately have a reaction to how they look and our minds assume things they shouldn’t. We all do it. You’re lying if you say you don’t.

If you don’t gaf what people think of you (and yay you, you shouldn’t) then you wear whatever the heck you want to wear.

Fear will keep you from living

If you keep being afraid of things, you’ll never experience all the true wonders of life and the world.

The world is full of opportunities and challenges and even some super exciting things but if you are afraid to step out of your comfort zone you will never experience any of them. Life is meant to be lived with vigor and excitement, not trapped in your house or in your bubble wrap. Go live!

I’m a huge Abraham Hicks fan and I think you might like this video. She talks about replacing fear with wisdom.

There is no such thing as failure

And you didn’t make a mistake. So many people will not try something for fear they will fail or make a mistake. You won’t know unless you try. If you are letting the fear of failure stop you from doing new things then you need to remove the word failure from your vocabulary.

If you continuously worry about failing or making a mistake, how will you ever know if something might actually work and be amazing?

Some brutal truths about life

We’re all gonna die and you have no idea how.

Not everyone who smiles at you is your friend.

People will talk about you no matter what.

Meditation is the greatest natural healer

No one has it all figured out

We are all really smart at something

Revenge is immature. Trust in Karma.

What are some truths about life you recently learned?

So clearly this is my list and these are my opinions but what are some truths about life you’ve learned recently? I’d love to know them too. Share them down below.

Sharing caring and knowledge is power.

peace out

xo iva xo

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