15 Things Women in Their 50’s Don’t Gaf About

Maybe you shouldn’t either

Iva Ursano
7 min readSep 24, 2021



I have to admit, it took me an awfully long time to love the skin I’m in and find my voice.

For years I was a quiet submissive shy church mouse, a hard core people pleaser, a pathetic ‘yes sir, no sir’ girl. Until one day I wasn’t. One day I realized I could tell people exactly how I feel without sounding like a fucking bitch.

For years I was worried about how I looked, what to wear, how to act. You get the idea.

And then one day none of it mattered anymore. This didn’t happen until I was well into my 50’s. There’s something magical and liberating about being a 50 something-year-old woman and if you are part of the “women over 50 tribe”, you know exactly what I’m talking about.

I remember thinking when I was in my 20’s and 30’s that 50 seemed so old and my whole life would just go to shit then. Little did I know. Life actually begins at 50, amirite?

This is my list…

It dawned on me the other day that I can now write about 50 something year old issues and concerns because I have lots of experience in this subject. 9 years experience to be exact. Next year the big 6–0 comes (insert sobbing emoji here).

I’ve grown an awful lot in the last 9 years and learned so much about myself. The one thing I did learn was I really like me. Like I’m a super cool person. 😎 I also learned that there really is a lot of shit that I don’t give a fuck about anymore.

Like, at all.

So before we get started, this is my list of 15 things that I don’t really gaf about anymore but in talking to many of my 50-year-old friends, they feel the same way too. Feel free to add to this list in the comments section below. I’m sure I missed hundreds of things other women over 50 don’t care about either!

But this list isn’t just for women over 50. I think women over 30 or 40 or 60 or whatever age can totally relate to it.

Without further ado and at the risk of making this long, drawn out, boring and convoluted… (too late?).

15 Things Women Over 50 Don’t Gaf About