12 No Bullshit Steps to Becoming a Powerful Badass Woman

An Ultimate Guide to Badassery

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Do you ever just look at some women and think “wow she’s a fucking badass” and you secretly wanna be just like her when you grow up? Like there’s just something about her that oozes badassery.

I like that kind of woman.

Some say that I’m a badass but I dunno about that. I mean, I’ve certainly done my fair share of ballsy shit. Does that make me a badass? Mebbe 🤷‍♀️

Anyway, this isn’t about me (surprise!) I just really want to talk about what being a badass really is and how to be a badass woman so you, in turn, can help other women become badassess too!!

Also, I seriously just love that word and want to say it a million times a day.

Badass meaning

I think it’s important to know the meaning of badass before we get into this guide ’cause maybe you don’t want to be a badass woman after all ( I shudder).

Being a badass doesn’t mean being covered in ink, swearing all the time, and doing ridiculous stunts on your motorcycle with a cigarette hanging from your lips (oh wait, maybe I am badass after all? 😅😅).

I mean, all that’s kinda badass too but that’s not what we’re talking about here. We’re talking about stepping boldly and confidently into the powerful beautiful creation that you are.

I Googled the definition for you and came up with a bunch of different meanings, unfortunately, most of them negative. I’m actually quite surprised by this. Have a look-

Badass meaning:

According to Oxford Dictionary this is what badass means-

noun

  1. a tough, uncompromising, or intimidating person.” one of them is a real badass, the other’s pretty friendly”

adjective

  1. tough, uncompromising, or intimidating.” a badass demeanor”

Well. Tough, maybe, sure, but why does that sound so negative? Uncompromising? That’s a little harsh. And intimidating? I mean, I get that being intimidating can be powerful and flattering but I hope people aren’t afraid of me!

We can talk more about that later.

I just feel they left out so many of the best characteristics of being a badass. I like the following badass meaning from simple.wiktionary.org

(slang) A person who has extreme attitudes and behavior and is admired by others. In this sense, calling someone a badass is a compliment. I heard that he smashed his guitar at the end of the encore. He’s such a badass!

This is what it means to me to be a badass:

  • confident
  • brave
  • no inhibitions
  • ballsy
  • fearless
  • fiercely loyal and honest
  • stands up for others
  • powerful but not egotistical

These are just a few of the words that come to mind when I describe a badass person.

What does it mean to be a badass woman?

This is what I think it means to be a badass woman. Let me know in the comments below if you agree.

Badass women look fear in the face and laugh at it. We take chances and push the envelope. We live unapologetically. We step up to the plate and go to bat no matter what. We don’t care what people think of us.

There’s just so much more to this I could probably write a book about this. I really should.

So if you think you wanna be a badass woman but not quite sure how to get there, I think this ultimate guide is just what you need. Let’s get to it.

How to be a Badass-The Ultimate Guide

First of all, we aren’t born badasses. We learned it along the way. Remember that next time you come across a badass woman. She worked hard to get there. And so can you.

Here’s how…I’m gonna break this down into 12 simple steps

1 Use your voice more

Learn to say no when you really want to and only say yes when you can. But say yes to yourself more and do more things that set your soul on fire.

It’s ok to say no to others when they ask for help. You’re not God. You don’t have to say yes all the time and for the sake of everything holy, stop trying to please everyone.

But I don’t only want you to use your voice to say no, I want you to use it to stand up for what you believe in, even if you have to stand alone. Speak up and speak out. Don’t be a doormat.

And don’t be afraid to tell people to fuck off.

2 Take more chances

Stop being afraid of the ‘what ifs’. Badass women don’t gaf about “what ifs”. We boldly go where we’ve never gone before and we learn and grow. We know that someone somewhere has already done the thing we want to do so we know it CAN be done.

And we do it. We’re not afraid of the outcome. We don’t believe in failure. If something seems too hard for us to do we’ll figure out how to do it and get it done. We love challenges!!

3 Be yourself

Don’t pretend to be someone you’re not to impress people who don’t matter and don’t care. You’ll only gain false friends that way. Just be you, babe!

Wear what you want, say what you want, do what you want. This is your life and you need to live it for you, not for anyone else. Don’t ever worry about what other people think of you.

Most of them don’t even think highly of themselves.

4 Stay calm under stress

Don’t freak out and lose your shit. Don’t be that drama queen. Stand tall, take a big deep breath and handle the situation like a champ!

When we think of the worst possible case scenario and start losing our marbles, we become weak. Take control of the situation and never let it control you. Badass women know how to take control and stay calm under stress.

Besides, there isn’t anything we can’t handle.

5 Have integrity

Say what you mean and mean what you say. Do what you say you’re going to do. And don’t be Gossipy Gertrude. There’s no integrity in talking shit about other women. Grow up.

Having integrity means people know they can trust you and have great respect for you. Who doesn’t admire a person with integrity?

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6 Set goals and focus

We have goals and we have focus. We don’t let anything get in our way of achieving our goals. We ask for help when we need it and we do whatever it takes to succeed.

Badass women don’t wimp out at the first roadblock/obstacle or challenge. We have a look at it and find ways around or over it. We don’t let things get in the way of our vision, dreams, and goals.

7 We lift others up

We know life isn’t a competition and we’ve also been in some really shitty situations before where we weren’t so sure we were gonna make it but we did, and many of us with the help of others.

We know what it’s like to be at rock bottom and need help. We will never let a sister down. Ever. Even if she did us wrong in the past. We know how to forgive and forget and let things go. Which brings us to number 8.

8 We don’t hold grudges

That’s for high school kids and we aren’t in high school anymore. You did me wrong, maybe I did you wrong. Forgive, let it go, and brush off your ass. Whatever happened happened. That doesn’t mean we won’t let our guard down! Nope.

It just means that we’re over it, we may never trust you again, but we’ve moved on. We took the higher road and let it go. That also means we don’t go around bashing your name to whoever will listen. We’re so much bigger than that.

9 Badass women take no shit from anyone ever

We will fuck you up. Haha ok just kidding we won’t. Honest.

But we also won’t stand for disrespect or being bullied. You got the wrong girl. Do not get mouthy with us and don’t tell us what to do.

We are not afraid to put up our hands and say “No you will not talk to me like this”. This is how you gain respect and also form solid boundary lines! When you have good boundaries, people will know not to cross them and if they do they know never to do it again.

10 We don’t care what you think of us

Honestly. Your opinions of us mean nothing. We are confident in who we are. We know we are good people and we live with high self respect/self esteem and self worth.

What you think of us means nothing, it’s none of our business, and we could not care less. Capiche? I mean if you wanna talk shit about us, have at it, but go back and read #5. No one will believe it anyway (and you end up looking and sounding like a bitter jealous jerk).

11 We don’t think we are better than you

We walk around with our heads held high in confidence, not arrogance. We aren’t better than you or anyone else and we don’t think we’re better than you. We know our shit stinks, just like yours.

We know and realize we are all equals here on earth.

We also realize that none of us are perfect, we all have stories and we’re all doing the best we can with what we know and have.

12 We walk away from drama

Who’s got time for that nonsense? Drama and gossip are for weak-minded people. We don’t let ourselves get wrapped up in who what where when and why and “omg tell me more”. Nope.

We also walk away from people who are toxic. Got no time for that either. If you’re looking to project all of your anger and trauma on to someone, keep walking. It ain’t gonna be this girl.

Summary of how to be a badass

If you read all the steps above you can see that the underlying message here is this:

“Be yourself, stand up for yourself and others, don’t take no shit, do no harm and live life unapologetically”

Stop worrying about what other people think of you. Stop worrying about the outcome of things. Start saying no to others and yes to you! Just stop worrying and start doing. Start living your life for YOU!!

Becoming a badass won’t happen overnight but day by day, challenge yourself to do things outside your comfort zone and hang around other badasses and learn from them!

There is an amazing liberation in being yourself. Just do you, babe!!

peace and badass love

xo iva xo

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Self help Guru|Expat|Website: https://amazingmemovement.com/ mini self help eBook series here: https://books.amazingmemovement.com/

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