11 Reasons Why No One Likes You

Even though you really are a nice person

Iva Ursano
9 min readNov 4, 2021



If you’re anything like me, or like I was, it kinda really bothers you when you find out people don’t like you. You’re fairly certain you’re a nice person with a good heart. You feel you are likable enough. So what gives? Why don’t people like you?

Why people don’t like you

I use to have a really hard time with this, I’ll be honest.

It used to hurt my feelings. An awful lot. And then I would spend, er I mean waste time, trying to figure out why they don’t like me and how I could possibly fix that.

Ok, so I used to be a people pleaser.

I’m one of those people who needs attention and validation. Wait, I used to be one of those people. I needed people to like me all the time. I was sad when someone didn’t like me.

“Why don’t you wanna be my friend? I’m nice dammit”!! Yet no matter how hard I tried, some people simply didn’t want to be my friend or even like me (insert sad face emoji).

When someone doesn’t like you for no reason

Well, you think there’s no reason but really there is. You know you’ve done nothing wrong to a person. You didn’t step out of line and you weren’t rude or obnoxious. At least you didn’t think so.

But the fact of the matter is, it’s kinda frustrating amirite? Like you can’t help thinking to yourself ‘well what the fuck did I ever do to you’? If you’re like me, you’ll go over things in your head to see if you maybe you said or did something wrong.

Did I offend someone? Did I trigger someone? Did I hurt someone’s feelings? What the hell happened?

Well, it’s not you at all…or, is it?

11 Peculiar Reasons Why People Don’t Like You

There’s a great Rumi quote that goes something like this:

“What you see in me is a reflection of you”

That’s a pretty powerful statement. Oddly enough, it offends so many people, and yes, even yours truly. What do you mean I’m a reflection of you? That can’t be. I think you’re an asshole (insert weird looking



Iva Ursano