10 Lessons From a Rock Bottom Survivor

It’s so pretty here!

So I think I’m now on rock bottom #3, or is it 2? No, it’s definitely 3. I can’t believe I’ve almost lost count. That’s a pretty pathetic problem to have to be honest.

In the words of the great J K Rowling:

“Rock bottom is the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life”

Hey me too girl!! How many times for you?

Let’s be honest, it fucking sucks

If you’re reading this right now and have hit rock bottom before, you already know how hard it fucking sucks, amirite? Unlike the subtitle “it’s so pretty here”, it really isn’t. It actually doesn’t start getting pretty until you surface.


No need to take you down memory lane to all my crashes. They happened. Trust me. The last one actually just happened in October of this year. I imagine many of us crashed this year. It’s been a tough shitty year.

So to be honest, I am climbing my way out of rock bottom again but to be fair, I’m only on the first rung. I have a ways to go but in true Iva fashion, I’ll make it out and smell prettier than ever before.

Or here’s to hoping anyway.

One thing you‘re certain to learn in rock bottom

Well first and foremost, you’re gonna learn that life just isn’t fair. No matter how good of a person you are, no matter how hard you work, no matter how sincere, kind, genuine, loving, fun, caring,…no matter what, life is bound to throw you a shitstorm.

And of course, a shitstorm that you are never prepared for. Like what happened to me in October. I woke up one morning and my entire online business was obliterated by Pinterest.

Ah such is life.

10 more lessons from a rock bottom survivor

1 Plans are useless

You can plan all you want for your future and retirement and your next big business idea but in the blink of an eye, it can all disappear. Just go with the flow. It’s less stressful that way.

2 Learn how to meditate

I’m serious. When you hit rock bottom, your whole world collapses and you will be in a fucking maniacal frenzy. Meditation will calm you down. You will need to do it many times a day.

3 It’s ok to cry a lot

Like every hour on the hour cry a lot. You can wake up crying, go to bed crying and cry all damn day, and that’s ok. Cry your little heart out. It doesn’t make you weak and it doesn’t mean you’re a spineless loser. You’re a human being with feelings. Show them dammit.

4 It’s ok to ask for help

For real. People know you hit bottom and they truly want to help you. Some people genuinely do care. Some don’t. You know who they are. Call on the ones who care about you and you’ll discover that they are more than happy to help you.

5 Starting over is exhausting and frustrating

I can’t even believe I’m having to do this again and I’m already tired just thinking about it. There isn’t anything fun or exciting about it at first. It pisses you off and you’ll fucking hate every minute of it. You’ll be super angry and want to throw things. Go ahead and throw things. Just not at an actual person.

6 Motivation will take time to achieve

You won’t have it right out of the gate. You won’t be like “Oh yay rock bottom. Now I get to start over and create something even bigger and better”! Ya, you won’t think like that at all. It will take time.

7 You may even think about ending it all

Many have. Please don’t. I’ve thought about it many times. I’m just so tired. What’s it all for? Why do I have to do this again? Fuck I’m almost 60 are you serious? It’s exhausting and you’re just kinda done. Stay the course. You’re gonna be ok babe.

8 Time to learn something new

Rock bottom will have you scrambling like a squirrel wondering where the fuck he put his nuts. “Now what, where, why, who, how”? Something didn’t work and here we are. Time to shake some shit up and learn something new. Maybe follow your heart?

9 Everything is temporary

The good and the bad. There’s an end to everything. Nothing lasts forever. So this shitstorm you are going through now? Ya that’s gonna come to an end soon and there will be a pot of gold (ok maybe just a rainbow?). We have survived 100% of the things that life has thrown at us already. You got this.

10 You’re not a loser or a failure

So many people think that. We feel like losers or failures. Successful people don’t hit rock bottom!! Newsflash for you. Ya they do. I was running a super successful online business and then I woke up one morning and poof, there it was gone. I don’t feel like a failure or loser. Neither should you.

Something didn’t work the way you planned or hoped it would. On to the next path my friend!

Remember something very important…most people don’t even try some of the shit you’ve done because they are afraid. You’re not afraid. You got balls. You did something that didn’t work. Keep going!!!

Respect, courage and confidence

These are three things that will happen when you come out of rock bottom. Well actually first of all you gonna laugh and cry and be all happy and excited. Trust me on that.

But then you’re gonna look back on the hell you just lived, you’re gonna wonder how you survived and how you managed to pull yourself out of it. Then the good stuff comes.

You are going to pride yourself on your courage, bravery, determination, and you’ll have so much respect for yourself AND a shit ton of confidence. The latter because you just pulled off what you thought was going to be impossible.

You survived rock bottom and lived to talk about it. You’ll have mad confidence. Trust me on that. People will admire and respect you and throw flowers at you (ok well maybe not).

And your story will be someone else’s survival guide.

Yes it sucks but you’re gonna be ok

So ya, rock bottom truly does fucking suck but you got this babe. You’re so gonna be ok. It’s tough and ugly and messy and shitty right now but you’re going to come on surface before you know it and be so damn proud of yourself.

And then you’ll become unstoppable. Because that’s what happens to people who survive rock bottom. We’re fighters, troopers, warriors, the rebels, the fierce and unstoppable.

You’ll see.

xo iva xo

Self help Guru|Expat|Website: https://amazingmemovement.com/ mini self help eBook series here: https://books.amazingmemovement.com/

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